So on one hand I think that we, as a human race, have gone a little too far with vibrators. Why ever would I want to see the inside of my vagina while I masturbate? Not to mention I would need my computer RIGHT there in order to see everything.
On the other hand, they say innovation comes from necessity right? I could understand how watching your body orgasm could be an intense, intimate, and ultimately cool experience.
What do you think?
xoxo Laysha
Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex! The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality. Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!
Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Saturday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A! Rest assured it’s completely anonymous if you want it!
xoxo Laysha
Every person wants to feel beautiful in their sexy lingerie, but almost everyone is self conscious in some way, shape, or form. It’s natural to want to pick what’s going to look the best on you, but not everybody knows where to start, and seeing all the options can get confusing. We’re here for you! Check out our lingerie guide to get-to-know your sexy and find the perfect fit!
CorsetA corset is a garment that is worn to hold in the torso and waist, usually for the purposes of achieving a smaller looking waist, lifting the bust, and creating an hourglass figure. They clasp or tie up for a custom fit and are usually very adjustable.
BustierA bustier, while very similar to a corset, is designed primarily for the purpose of lifting the bust and making the chest look bigger and fuller, while also gently shaping the waist. They have cups where corsets do not.
BabydollA babydoll is a loose fitting, flowing garment that skims the hips. It’s more comfortable than a corset or bustier, and is fitted at the top and comes out towards the hips, giving a flattering fit.
ChemiseThe chemise tends to be unfitted and flat and are designed to skim the natural curves. Traditionally worn as a sleeping garment, chemises are designed for comfort and beauty – though new designs are coming out every day!
| Trims the waist |
| Creates hourglass figure |
| Hides tummy |
| Makes hips appear larger |
| Balances women with boarder shoulders |
Great for:
| Makes bust appear larger |
| Gently shapes the waist |
| Balances women with large hips |
Great for:
| Hides belly |
| Accentuates hips |
| Skims over body |
| Balances bust|
Great for:
| Accentuate’s natural curves |
| Elongates body |
| Form fitting |
| Slims body |
Great for:
That’s everything you need to know about fitting lingerie!
Until next time!
xoxo Laysha
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1) I’ve recently started having sex for the first time, and I’m kinda worried. How long is sex supposed to last? I’m worried I’m blowing too soon…
That’s more or less for your partner to decide! Everybody has a different idea about how long sex should be. Some people say that 10 minutes is plenty, while others wouldn’t go any less than 2 hours (yikes)! If your partner is satisfied after your sexual experiences, then that’s all that matters.
However, according to a study, 1-3 minutes is considered ‘short’, 3-7 minutes is considered ‘adequate’, 7-13 minutes is ‘desirable’, and ‘too long’ is around 30 minutes or so. Keep in mind this is just for sexual intercourse, and does not include the time for foreplay and other activity!
2) My boyfriend seems to be having trouble finishing…like, a lot. What’s going on?
There could be many reasons why your partner is having difficulty reaching orgasm. The most common reasons are stress or a wandering mind. Sometimes it can be hard to put yourself in the moment when your mind is travelling to work, and other home stresses. There are other cases, though more rare, where men have no difficulty getting aroused, but they have difficulty achieving orgasm. It’s called “retarded ejaculation”, and it could be due to many nerve related reasons. If you have worries that this is the reason, a visit to the doctor is suggested.
3) I’m really upset because my partner is having cyber sex with other people, but when I talk to her about it she insists she isn’t cheating! Is it? I can’t help but be really upset about it.
If you feel that it’s cheating, then it’s cheating. Simple as that, no hesitation.
A lot of people feel as though as long as you’re not swapping bodily fluids or come in physical contact, then it’s not cheating. A lot of people think to the contrary – and there is such thing as emotionally cheating as well.
In the end, if what they’re doing makes you uncomfortable and hurts you, then it’s cheating. You get to decide where that line is, and when to draw it in the sand for your partner.
That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!
-Laysha
a) you “pull out”
b) woman is on your period
c) woman is on top
d) etc.
Fact is, all of those are false! You can get pregnant during your period. You canget pregnant if the woman is one top and you have a high chance of getting pregnant using the “pull out” method. Practice safe sex by using any form of contraceptive you choose – be that the pill, condoms, or other types of contraceptives.
Nope! The vagina is a muscle and has muscle memory, which means it shrinks back down after sex. As a woman becomes more aroused, the vagina reacts by expanding and becoming longer so that penetration is easier – it has nothing to do with how much sex a woman has!
However, your pelvic floor can be affected by things like childbirth, and if you are worried about the strength of your vagina you can exercise it! Use kegel exercisers 3 times a week to help strengthen your pelvic floor. (Tip: Doing this can lead to better sex and orgasms!)
On the contrary, people with disabilities and other chronic illnesses can lead just as full and exciting sex lives as anybody else. With the increase of products available on the market, there’s a lot out there to help people of all kinds – from sex swings to positioning devices, all designed to help put you in position and make sex easier and more fulfilling.
Please no! There are toys that are specifically designed for use in the anal region – and there’s a pretty big distinction! Anal toys all have a flared base that prevents them from slipping up into the anus and disappearing. If this happens to you, sometimes the only way to get the item out again is by a visit to the doctor, and no one wants that.
This myth has probably been around the longest out of any of them. Some cultures said the rhino horn would cause virility in males, while others claim oysters really get you in the mood. Unfortunately, studies have shown no effects from these popular aphrodisiacs. That being said, if you had an erotic experience with a certain food, eating it again can cause feeling of arousal at the memory. That’s almost the same thing!
This myth is a half an half. Sex alone can bring some women to orgasm, but only a small percentage. Fact is, around 80% of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, and sex alone usually doesn’t cut it. Use fingers or a small vibrating toy to offer stimulation to the clitoris and increase a woman’s chance of orgasm tenfold! She’ll thank you for it.
That’s it for now! Until next time lovelies!
xoxo Laysha
Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex! The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality. Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!
Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Saturday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A! Rest assured it’s completely anonymous if you want it!
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You sent them, it’s time to answer!!!
1) I think my girlfriend is lying about having so many orgasms in a row. Is it possible that she can?
Well… I can’t tell you whether your girlfriend is lying about orgasm after orgasm, but I can tell you that multiple orgasms is a very real thing! The phenomenon of multiple orgasms was originally documented nearly half a century ago, where it was stated that [“Many well-adjusted women enjoy a minimum of three of four orgasmic experiences before they reach apparent satiation.” (pg. 64)] It is very possible that your girlfriend is achieving multiple orgasms during your sexual encounters (and you should be proud, FYI).
2) How can I make my dick bigger?
While I hate to be the bearer of bad news, it’s really not possible for men to increase the size of their penis by a large amount. Penis pumps can help, but their results are short term and only help with the girth of the penis, and only a little bit. There are products out there (such as penis sleeves and length and girth enhancers) that you can wear to give extra length and girth to your penis, but you can’t make the member itself bigger -sorry!
3) What can I do to get my girlfriend to swallow when she gives me a blowjob?
I would advise against trying to make her swallow if she’s not comfortable with it. Some women simply don’t like it, be it the taste or the texture. Some more just don’t have the stomach for it. While you may think it’s sexy, trying to force her to swallow when she doesn’t want to will only cause her to want to give you less and less oral sex.
That being said – talk to her about it! Find out the reason why she doesn’t want to swallow. Is it taste? Texture? Or another reason entirely. Some things can be fixed! For example, if she doesn’t want to swallow because of taste, eating sweet foods (such as pineapple) can help make semen more appetizing to some.
That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!
-Laysha
You can’t talk to so and so. I don’t like it
I’m horny, its your duty as my lover to have sex with me and satisfy my needs
You are doing something I don’t like, I will throw a tantrum to get my way
You haven’t texted me back, you must be cheating on me
You must celebrate my achievements, but yours are insignificant
If you break up with me, I will kill myself
These are phrases used to control you. To keep you in line, and to follow them hook line and sinker.
This was my life for three years before I finally said enough is enough.
I thought it finally did. I met a boy. His name? Lets just say it was Eric. Everything seemed to go so well. We clicked, so I thought Finally, its my turn to experience what true love is. I was wrong, so wrong. Eric and I, we moved in together after 1 year of dating. I thought this was the boy who I would spend my life with, so I saw no problem in moving in with him so early. I started noticing subtle signs, but I was blinded, so I thought nothing of it.
You’re imagining things, grow up Gracie.
However, it escalated. What started as cute jealousy, started turning rancid real quick. Gone were the cute “Now don’t you run away from me ;)” In with the “ Oh ? If you find him so hot, why don’t you go f**k him instead, I know you want to!”
I only mentioned that the grocery clerk had a pretty smile.
I thought there was something wrong with me, and that Eric was justified in his treatment of me. Was I not pretty enough? Was I too heavy? Was I too vanilla? These thoughts plagued me for a long time until I finally thought enough was enough and I got myself out.
I’m finally dating after three years. I’m finally putting myself out there, and I’m glad that I did. It wasn’t easy, I’m still constantly thinking “Am I having sex with Matthew because I want to, or because I think I owe him something?” or “Is he doing things for me only because he wants things in return?”
Its getting easier as each day passes on, and I won’t say its not hard because it is, it definitely is. However I learned from this. I learned to stand up for myself and not allow another person to define my self-worth. Only I can do that.
If you are being wrongfully treated by someone who is supposed to love and care for you, whether it be a lover or a relative, try to see that there is nothing wrong with you that you need to fix. You define your self worth, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Be the person you want to be, be free with who you know you are!
Another time lovelies!
xoxo Gracie
Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex! The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality. Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!
Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Saturday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A! Rest assured it’s completely anonymous if you want it!
