Sex & Pregnancy – What You Should Know!


It’s no doubt that approaching sex during pregnancy can be a little daunting. Some parents have preconceived notions about what they can and can’t do during pregnancy, or some people have been told through the grapevine that sex during pregnancy isn’t safe (hint: it totally is!). In any case, here’s everything you need to know about sex during pregnancy!


1) Is sex during pregnancy safe?

Providing that you’re pregnancy is progressing normally and you don’t have any complications, sex is perfectly safe during pregnancy! It’s pretty rare that doctor prescribes what is known as “pelvic rest” (meaning you should abstain from penetrative sex), but it can happen. Generally, as long as you’re not told by your doctor that you shouldn’t – assume you can! If you have any questions, simply ask your doctor!


2) Are orgasms safe?

Absolutely! While orgasms do cause the vaginal walls to contract, it’s not even close to the same degree as actual contractions, and don’t pose a problem for most women.

3) Will having sex hurt the baby?

A regular fear among men in regards to sex is “will my penis poke the baby?”. The answer is no – it won’t. The baby is protected by the amniotic sac as well as layers of muscle. So you’re safe to do the nasty – with no worries about the baby!

4) What about oral and anal sex?

You can proceed with your anal and oral activities during pregnancy – you might just need to be a little more careful! A lot of women get hemorrhoids during pregnancy, so anal sex can be a bit more painful. As for oral sex, if a pregnant woman is receiving, you have to be careful not to blow any air into the vagina. While rare, blowing air into the vagina can cause a serious condition called a venous air embolism – and can sometimes be fatal to mom and baby.

5) If I’m already pregnant, should I still use condoms?

This is something that you should discuss with your partner. If you’re a single pregnant mom-to-be (or you and your partner have an open relationship) experimenting sexually, it’s best to use a condom to help prevent STI’s – which can pass to baby and affect their health.


Best Positions


Sometimes it can be hard to reach around a pregnant belly for some extra stimulation when you need it – a toy can help with that! Try looking for toys that have a handle to give you a little extra reach!

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Until next time!

xoxo Laysha

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Weekly Q&A

Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex!  The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Saturday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A! Rest assured it’s completely anonymous if you want it!

Q&A Answers!

Good morning, everyone!
You sent them, it’s time to answer!!!


1) My partner and I want to start trying anal. She has lost of vibrators already, do I really have to buy an anal toy? 

If the toy doesn’t have a flared base, DON’T USE IT! The important thing that separates an anal toy from any other adult toy is that it has some kind of flared base or loop at the bottom that’s designed to keep the toy from disappearing inside of you. “Sex Brought Me to the ER” is a very real show, with very real consequences! If a toy doesn’t have a base, it runs the risk of going missing inside of you – where some cases medical intervention may be involved.

Do yourself a favor, always use a toy with a base. Like the ones showed below!


2) I can’t ever seem to orgasm when my boyfriend and I have sex – I do during oral though! Is this normal?

It’s more normal than you think! Around 70-80 percent of women can only achieve orgasm during clitoral stimulation. If you want to start orgasming during penetrative sex, there are claims that strengthening your pelvic floor by doing kegel exercises might help. There haven’t been any studies that prove this indefinitely, but a lot of women who exercise their kegels claim that they have better sex and vaginal orgasms!

Alternatively,  use your or your partners hand during sex to stimulate the clitoris – this extra manual stimulation can prove to be just what you need. Even a small vibrating toy between you can give the sensations you need – just let your partner know that you want to experiment!

3) I don’t really like vibration are there other toys I can try?

Absolutely! These days companies are coming out with more and more unique options for toys! While a lot of toys still come with vibrating options, you can choose whether or not to use them! Some examples of good toys to try if you dislike vibration are:

Suction Toys

These toys simulate oral sex through suction! Some (like the womanizer), use both a light suction and pulsating waves to stimulate which is an entirely different feeling than vibration, while others (like the Hiky) use a powerful suction motion only with vibration options if you want them!


Find the Hiky Here!


Find the Womanizer Here!

Roller Balls

These toys use rotating balls to stimulate the clitoris instead of traditional vibration. The balls move in a variety of patterns and speeds and create a similar sensation to that of exploring fingers. The Embrace line of roller toys are a great example!


Find the Embrace Swirl Massager Here!

That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!


How to Clean Your Sex Toys!


BottleDo Not Use Soap!

Although some people will say to do this, we don’t recommend it! Regular soap can leave a scummy build-up on your toys. Think of the soap scum that collects on your shower after a while – you don’t want that on something that’s going in or around your body!

We recommend a Toy Cleaner to properly clean your adult toys!

What is Toy Cleaner?

Toy cleaner is a mild antibacterial spray that cleans and sanitizes your toys!

Safe for all toy materials
Usually uses citric acid to sanitize
Will not damage toys
Can be alcohol or vegetable based

How to Use Toy Cleaner

SprayStep 1: Spray

Spray your toy down with the cleaner, making sure to cover all of the areas that your body touches with the mist.

Tip: Avoid your battery packs even if the toy is waterproof!

clockStep 2: Leave

Leave the toy for around 5 minutes to allow the disinfecting agent to properly do its job. You can leave for longer if you wish – 5 minutes is the minimum recommended time.

WipeStep 3: Wipe

Use a damp cloth to wipe the toy completely, removing both cleaner and any residue that has built up on the toy during use.

RinseStep 4: Rinse & Leave to Dry

Make sure to rinse the toy thoroughly with warm water to remove any left-over cleaner and residue, then leave the toy to air dry in an open place for a few hours. Once the toy is dry, store as usual in a clean, dry place! Toy bags are ideal for storage as they keep the toy free from contact with other toys.

Tip: Do not dry your toy off with a towel or cloth – fibers from the cloth may stick to your toy!


Glass and Silicone toys (if they don’t use batteries) can be boiled or placed in the top rack of the dishwasher to be cleaned! They are considered non-porous toys: meaning they’re easy to clean!







There you are lovelies!

xoxo Laysha

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Weekly Q&A

Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex!  The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Friday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A!

(If you don’t want to leave your real email address, you don’t have to.  No problem! Simply type in a fake email address)

10 Things You Should Know About Period Sex!

1461264059-period-sexPeriod sex. A monthly bliss, or taboo subject? Whether or not to have sex on your period has become a serious debate, with some people screaming YES while others are an adamant NO! Some women think that having sex on their period is gross, messy, and worst of all, that their partner won’t enjoy it. Before you make up your mind on the age old debate, check out our 10 things you should know about period sex below!

Doctors say it’s A-okay

As long as you and your partner is comfortable, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a romp during your monthly’s. It’s healthy and normal for both partners!

You shouldn’t need lubricant!

If you’re somebody who ordinarily needs a little bit of help, fret not when your Aunt Flo comes to visit! Period blood makes a great lubricant on its own!

Clumping is completely normal

Just had a great period quickie and you’re finding dark clumps afterwards? Completely normal! It’s just some of the uteral lining coming out – not a big deal at all.

You might love it!

Studies show that women can be more aroused during the 3rd day of their period – which is the ideal time to have sex!

Your partner probably won’t be as grossed out as you think

If you’re at all curious or worried simply talk to your partner! A little conversation can go a long way, and you might find out that they’re not as worried about it as you are!

You can minimize mess! 

Put down a towel to help prevent stains. Wear a female condom to help ease on the blood flow, or have your partner wear a condom for easy clean up for them! (Hint: you bleed during sex less than you think, unless you’re a heavy bleeder!)

You have options! 

If the idea of sex during your period is an uncomfortable thought, that doesn’t mean you still can’t enjoy yourself. Wear a tampon to stop blood flow and have you or your partner focus on clitoral stimulation!

Use protection!

Contrary to popular belief, you CAN get pregnant while on your period. If you’re practicing safe sex, make sure to use protection even during that time of the month!

Sex can help with cramps!

Orgasms help with cramp relief – end of story!

Sex can shorten your period! 

When you have an orgasm, your uterus contracts. This contracting causes the uteral lining to come out faster, meaning shorter periods!

All in all, period sex seems like a pretty sweet deal!


What do you think? Comment below!

xoxoxo Laysha

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Q&A Answers!

Good morning, everyone!
You sent them, it’s time to answer!!!


1) Sometimes during sex, I feel like my vagina loosens. Is there anything I can do to make it tighter?

Kegel exercises help your vagina muscles like lifting weights helps the other areas of your body to become strong! Kegel exercises aren’t only great for preventing incontinence and helping your pelvic floor – they also make sex better too! Once those muscles are strengthened, it can lead to a tighter feeling and more intense orgasms! The lucky thing about Kegel exercises is that they’re easy, you can do them anywhere, and you don’t need any fancy tools (though you can use them if you want).

Basically, all you have to do is tighten your pelvic floor muscles – and easy way to tell which muscle this is, is to stop peeing mid stream. Did you cut off urination? That’s the muscle you want to squeeze! From there, all you have to do is hold, and release. The rule of thumb is to squeeze, hold for 5 seconds, then release for 5 seconds. Repeat for up to half an hour (they say 30 minutes of exercise 3x a week is best). As you use the muscles more, they’ll begin to strengthen, and you can practice holding the intervals for longer. 10, 15, 30 seconds and up!

If you like, once that’s done you can get help by a vaginal weight to really use those muscles!

2) My boyfriend likes to watch porn. Is it a bad thing? Should I be worried?

Honestly, many women having feelings of jealousy or dislike towards their partners porn watching, but it’s very rarely anything to worry about. Some people are more visual creatures than others, and men tend to fall into the category. Women tend to be more mentally stimulated – it’s just how we’re wired! Now, that being said, not every man falls into that category, nor women to the other, but as a general rule of thumb that’s how it works. The only time you really have to worry is when your partner begins to let porn watching disrupt their daily life. If they miss work due to watching pornography, if they ignore you or their friends and family in favor it.

Other than that it’s not a bad thing, and you definitely shouldn’t be worried!

3) I get very “wet” during sex. Am I normal?

100%! In fact, I might go so far as to say that you’re very lucky. A lot of women struggle with self lubrication – especially once menopause begins to sink in. There are a lot of reasons why you might get wetter, including the time of your cycle and level of arousal, but it’s rarely a bad thing to be more wet than what is normal.

That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!


How kink helped with my body positivity

It’s no secret that both women and men have body insecurities, especially when it comes to the bedroom. When I was younger, I used to think that there was no one in the world that could have more body insecurities than me. When I first started having sex, there was no way that I would do anything with the lights on. The lights had to be off for me to even come crawling out from under the sheets.

You see, I was always pretty heavily picked on. I wasn’t a small pre-teen or teen and that really rubbed off on my psyche. While I started having sex young, it came with a lot of mixed feelings. On one hand I was excited – boys were starting to pay attention to me! On the other hand, I was so nervous and conscious about my body. Would they find my stretch marks disgusting? Were my breasts too saggy? Did I make weird faces? Was I just plain ugly? Looking back on it now, I realize how much that negativity really rubbed off on my sex life. My nerves showed through, and I can see now that I didn’t start really enjoying sex until I let go of all of that.

I wish I could tell you exactly how to do it, but everyone is different. Even more so I don’t think how it happened for me could happen to many other people. In my early twenties I started to experiment with the kink lifestyle. I met two amazing partners who whisked me away to this grand world of parties, scenes and so many other amazing things. Deciding to experiment took bravery, but these two people had ways of pushing me to my limits. I remembered the first time that I decided that I didn’t care, the first time that I actually felt sexy.

We were at a party, and I was dressed to the nines. Corset, skirt, very high heels. My partners thought it a good idea to put a hood on me and lead me around. Despite the rough terrain (gravel is NOT nice to walk on in high heels), I received so many compliments about how graceful and beautiful I looked. And I felt so comfortable because I couldn’t see anything. I didn’t have to see all of these faces staring back and me. I didn’t have to wonder if they were judging me, because I was only left to hear them. The genuine words felt more real to me than anything I had ever experienced before. After that party I rode on a high that made me glow for days.

I had never met a more understanding group of people. They truly built me up as a person, breaking down my insecurities and helping me find things to love about myself that I hadn’t even considered. I felt truly and unconditionally loved and appreciated, sometimes by complete strangers. Never once was I sneered at, mocked, or made fun of. Never once was I called fat or ugly. I met hundreds of people during those 3 years, and not once did anybody affirm my worst fears of myself. Out of all of those people, not one. That was a wake up call for me that I really needed.

As time went on I got more and more comfortable. Suddenly I was doing things that I could never imagine myself doing. I was changing in public unisex change rooms, or wearing little to nothing at these parties even when there were people I didn’t know present. I had become so comfortable in my body that nothing else mattered. I’ve been out of the kink lifestyle for over 2 years now, and I can honestly look back at those 3 years as what really helped me find myself. I discovered so much more than body positivity. I discovered my limits, what I enjoy, and how to have a voice. I had amazing experiences that taught me things I can take with me for the rest of my life. I feel more whole as a person and more sure of myself than a lot of people my age.

I honestly thank kink for most of it.

Sometimes you never know where new experiences will take you!

I hope all of you can realize how truly beautiful you are and find your own body positivity!




The 60 Year Itch!

The need for intimacy is ageless! And studies now say that no matter your gender, you can enjoy sex well into your adult years! More people than ever over the age of 60 are enjoying the same amount of sex and dating as they did when they were younger. In a lot of ways, being over 60 is the golden age for sex! As you age you gain more experience and get wiser, being able to please yourself and your sexual partners easier. While there are challenges to sex as you age, you can find tips for enjoying a healthy sex life as you age.


It’s no secret: sex is not the same as you age! Sometimes you have to do things a little differently.

1. Have less expectations for yourself and your partner. You might not be able to do what you used to and that’s okay!
2. Embrace those differences to make sex good now.
3. Modernize. When you were younger, sex was a taboo subject – but not anymore! Communicate, seek information or find helpful products!
4. Take your time! Good sex involves more than just intercourse! Take your time with foreplay with touching and cuddling.
5. Experiment. Some things may not work the same as they did a few years ago, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find something new (and better).
6. Foreplay is important! Both men and women take longer to arouse as they get older.


As men age, erections may not be the same. They either may be difficult to get, or hard to maintain. Many men suffer with this problem, but a lot of men actually have no problem getting erections. If you do, find a method that works well for you! There are many things that may help.


An all natural stimulant for men, Forta helps men get erections by increasing the blood flow to the penis! Staying in the system for 24 hours, Forta can help increase response time, energy, and vitality!



Penis pumps help create erections by creating a vacuum that forces blood into the penis, making it harder and thicker. Then simply add a penis ring ( a ring worn around the base of the penis) which helps keep erections longer because they keep the blood in the penis.


Many women have difficulty with vaginal dryness as they age. A good lubricant can solve many problems that comes with dryness -including daily discomfort! Find a natural feeling lubricant that emulates your own body fluids for comfort and increased sensation! Anal play? Make sure you use lubricant for that as well!




Best Positions for the Older Couple

Liberators – For the couple that wants more!

As we age, we might need a little help getting into positions. Liberators are made for the old and young couple alike that need a little extra lift! Some are designed to help with angle, other to soften the blow to the knees or other body parts during intercourse. Some are even curved for a gentle rocking motion while you go.

Until next time!

Laysha xoxoxo

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