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1) I ended up having an embarrassing moment and caught my son doing stuff with another man. I think he might be gay, but there is a way I can tell for sure?
The only way to know for sure is to ask him! I know that might seem like something you don’t want to talk about, but there’s no other way to absolutely know unless you do. Your son may be bisexual, bi-curious, pansexual, or even simply experimenting with his sexuality! None of those things mean that he’s homosexual, even if he does include men in his sex life. Coming out can be a difficult thing for people, so if you do decide to ask him be sensitive – no matter how he identifies, he likely didn’t want you to find out that way.
2) How healthy is it to masturbate while in a relationship? I know it sounds weird…but it feels kind of like cheating.
Well, I can tell you that masturbation is not cheating. I always like to say that cheating is in the eye of the beholder- some people think certain things are cheating that other people don’t. That being said, if your partner thinks that you masturbating is cheating, that is simply not true! Masturbation is normal and healthy regardless of if you’re in a relationship or not.
It’s okay to masturbate and not have sex with your partner! Don’t let anybody make you feel that if you’re in the mood that means that you have to have sex. Sometimes people don’t want to have sex but still want to have an orgasm (or two), and that’s okay!
That being said, if you find that you have some kind of addiction to masturbation and porn, are only masturbating and never want to have intercourse with your partner, there may be some underlying issue that you need to explore.
3) My boyfriend is interesting in trying out rimming, but I really don’t want to go down there. Is there any way to make it less gross?
Well, first of all, don’t do anything you’re uncomfortable with. If the taste is the only thing putting you off though, then you can actually do quite a bit to help combat that! A lot of people report rimming as a very satisfying experience for both partners.
First of all, the person receiving the rim job should be courteous and make sure the area is clean and washed. It’s as simple as using a baby wipe, some antibacterial soap, or starting rimming fresh out of the shower. You can even douche if you like, a lot of people probe inside the anus with their tongue during rimming, but that’s a personal choice!
The second thing that can help is a flavored lubricant. Not only will it make the area more slippery and easier to get to, it will provide some flavor to help mask anything unfavorable in that area. Though if the anus is nice and clean, there shouldn’t be any issues. After all, the anus is just skin like the rest of the body!
That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!