Sex Myths #Debunked

MYTH: You can’t get pregnant if…

a) you “pull out”
b) woman is on your period
c) woman is on top
d) etc.

Fact is, all of those are false! You can get pregnant during your period. You canget pregnant if the woman is one top and you have a high chance of getting pregnant using the “pull out” method. Practice safe sex by using any form of contraceptive you choose – be that the pill, condoms, or other types of contraceptives.

MYTH: Vaginas loosen if you have a lot of sex.

Nope! The vagina is a muscle and has muscle memory, which means it shrinks back down after sex. As a woman becomes more aroused, the vagina reacts by expanding and becoming longer so that penetration is easier – it has nothing to do with how much sex a woman has!

However, your pelvic floor can be affected by things like childbirth, and if you are worried about the strength of your vagina you can exercise it! Use kegel exercisers 3 times a week to help strengthen your pelvic floor. (Tip: Doing this can lead to better sex and orgasms!)

MYTH: People with disabilities don’t have sex.

On the contrary, people with disabilities and other chronic illnesses can lead just as full and exciting sex lives as anybody else. With the increase of products available on the market, there’s a lot out there to help people of all kinds – from sex swings to positioning devices, all designed to help put you in position and make sex easier and more fulfilling.

MYTH: You can use any toy for anal play.

Please no! There are toys that are specifically designed for use in the anal region – and there’s a pretty big distinction! Anal toys all have a flared base that prevents them from slipping up into the anus and disappearing. If this happens to you, sometimes the only way to get the item out again is by a visit to the doctor, and no one wants that.

MYTH: Certain foods can get you in the mood.

This myth has probably been around the longest out of any of them. Some cultures said the rhino horn would cause virility in males, while others claim oysters really get you in the mood. Unfortunately, studies have shown no effects from these popular aphrodisiacs. That being said, if you had an erotic experience with a certain food, eating it again can cause feeling of arousal at the memory. That’s almost the same thing!

MYTH: Sex alone can bring women to orgasm

This myth is a half an half. Sex alone can bring some women to orgasm, but only a small percentage. Fact is, around 80% of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, and sex alone usually doesn’t cut it. Use fingers or a small vibrating toy to offer stimulation to the clitoris and increase a woman’s chance of orgasm tenfold! She’ll thank you for it.

That’s it for now! Until next time lovelies!

xoxo Laysha

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Weekly Q&A

Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex!  The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Saturday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A! Rest assured it’s completely anonymous if you want it!

Any Time, Any Place

 

Favorite Lyrics:

Skirt around my waist
Wall against my face
I can feel your lips
Oooh

I don’t wanna stop just because
People walkin’ by are watchin’ us
I don’t give a damn what they think
I want you now
I don’t wanna stop just because
You feel so good inside of my love

Thoughts: 

For such a soft, easy listening song  – Janet Jackson certainly made a great song about doing it in public! It must have been risque for 1993, but it received critical acclaim as a classic – and I can see why! Not everybody has the will to do it in public, but listening to this song makes you feel like you’re right there – great song to listen to during sex!

What do you think?

Until next time!

xoxo Laysha

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Q&A Answers!

Good morning, everyone!
You sent them, it’s time to answer!!!

1) I think my girlfriend is lying about having so many orgasms in a row. Is it possible that she can? 

Well… I can’t tell you whether your girlfriend is lying about orgasm after orgasm, but I can tell you that multiple orgasms is a very real thing! The phenomenon of multiple orgasms was originally documented nearly half a century ago, where it was stated that [“Many well-adjusted women enjoy a minimum of three of four orgasmic experiences before they reach apparent satiation.” (pg. 64)] It is very possible that your girlfriend is achieving multiple orgasms during your sexual encounters (and you should be proud, FYI).

2) How can I make my dick bigger?

While I hate to be the bearer of bad news, it’s really not possible for men to increase the size of their penis by a large amount. Penis pumps can help, but their results are short term and only help with the girth of the penis, and only a little bit. There are products out there (such as penis sleeves and length and girth enhancers) that you can wear to give extra length and girth to your penis, but you can’t make the member itself bigger -sorry!

3) What can I do to get my girlfriend to swallow when she gives me a blowjob?

I would advise against trying to make her swallow if she’s not comfortable with it. Some women simply don’t like it, be it the taste or the texture. Some more just don’t have the stomach for it. While you may think it’s sexy, trying to force her to swallow when she doesn’t want to will only cause her to want to give you less and less oral sex.

That being said – talk to her about it! Find out the reason why she doesn’t want to swallow. Is it taste? Texture? Or another reason entirely. Some things can be fixed! For example, if she doesn’t want to swallow because of taste, eating sweet foods (such as pineapple) can help make semen more appetizing to some.

That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!

-Laysha

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How Being in Abusive Relationships Affect New Dating

You can’t talk to so and so. I don’t like it

I’m horny, its your duty as my lover to have sex with me and satisfy my needs

You are doing something I don’t like, I will throw a tantrum to get my way

You haven’t texted me back, you must be cheating on me

You must celebrate my achievements, but yours are insignificant

If you break up with me, I will kill myself

These are phrases used to control you. To keep you in line, and to follow them hook line and sinker.

This was my life for three years before I finally said enough is enough.

I thought it finally did. I met a boy. His name? Lets just say it was Eric. Everything seemed to go so well. We clicked, so I thought Finally, its my turn to experience what true love is. I was wrong, so wrong. Eric and I, we moved in together after 1 year of dating. I thought this was the boy who I would spend my life with, so I saw no problem in moving in with him so early. I started noticing subtle signs, but I was blinded, so I thought nothing of it.

You’re imagining things, grow up Gracie.

However, it escalated. What started as cute jealousy, started turning rancid real quick. Gone were the cute “Now don’t you run away from me ;)” In with the “ Oh ? If you find him so hot, why don’t you go f**k him instead, I know you want to!”

I only mentioned that the grocery clerk had a pretty smile.

I thought there was something wrong with me, and that Eric was justified in his treatment of me. Was I not pretty enough? Was I too heavy? Was I too vanilla? These thoughts plagued me for a long time until I finally thought enough was enough and I got myself out.

I’m finally dating after three years. I’m finally putting myself out there, and I’m glad that I did. It wasn’t easy, I’m still constantly thinking “Am I having sex with Matthew because I want to, or because I think I owe him something?” or “Is he doing things for me only because he wants things in return?”

Its getting easier as each day passes on, and I won’t say its not hard because it is, it definitely is. However I learned from this. I learned to stand up for myself and not allow another person to define my self-worth. Only I can do that.

If you are being wrongfully treated by someone who is supposed to love and care for you, whether it be a lover or a relative, try to see that there is nothing wrong with you that you need to fix. You define your self worth, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Be the person you want to be, be free with who you know you are!

Another time lovelies!

xoxo Gracie

Weekly Q&A

Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex!  The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Saturday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A! Rest assured it’s completely anonymous if you want it!

What Should You Disclose Before Sex?

Hello lovelies!

It is a major question, but to be honest I had never really thought about it deeply before seeing this video. What should you tell your partner before having sex for the first time? The answer is going to be different for everyone, of course. Personally, I think it’s important to know if my partner has an STI, and when they were last tested. Of course having a small discussion about their sexual preferences is a must!

This video below is a great starting point to think about what you should be disclosing – and also things you should be asking yourself!

Tell us what you think in the comments!

Until next time,

xoxo Laysha

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Q&A Answers!

Good morning, everyone!
You sent them, it’s time to answer!!!

 

1) Should I be having sex on my period?

 

Honestly, that’s completely up to you and your comfort level, as well as your partners! Some people don’t like having period sex, and if you don’t that’s A-Okay! However, if it’s something you’re interested in, know that having sex on your period is perfectly fine – it even has some benefits! The most common issue with the idea of women having sex on their period is they’re afraid their partner will be grossed out. You would be surprised that most people don’t care, but the only way you’ll know is to ask!

Check out our blog: 10 Things You Should Know About Period Sex for more information!

 

2) I started seeing a guy and he’s a little on the small size. We haven’t had sex yet but I’m thinking about it. Does size really matter?

While some people are “size queens”, that doesn’t mean you need to buy into the hype. While traditional sexual intercourse can sometimes (and I mean sometimes) be a bit lack luster with a smaller partner, you can still find amazing sexual enjoyment. Engage in more foreplay or choose a position that helps work for smaller partners (hint: doggystyle is great for this! Even the smallest guy can hit the G-spot when you tilt your hips upward). It’s not always about the end result, sometimes it’s about the ride! Guys that are on the smaller side tend to be amazing during foreplay because they’re trying to make up for something they think is lacking, don’t be afraid to take advantage!

3) I’m 19 years old and I’ve never been in a relationship. I’ve always felt really self-conscious about it. In the past year, I’ve tried dating, but I could never make it work. Lately, I’ve been really horny, so it’s been even worse for me. I’m starting to worry that I’ll never find anybody. Do you have any advice on how I could find somebody?

Starting a relationship can be complicated and rarely like what we see in the movies. While it might not be what you want to hear, the best advice is often: be patient. We rarely find anybody while we’re actively looking for them. Usually finding somebody to build a relationship with sneaks up on us when we least expect it. Sometimes it can take years (it took me 3) to find someone to build a true relationship with – and there’s nothing wrong with that! It means that when you finally find that person, that often the relationship will be deep and satisfying.

I would suggest focusing on having fun and focus on yourself! There’s nothing wrong with being sexually active (if being horny is what you’re worried about) and taking things as they come. If you haven’t yet, try joining a couple online dating sites – or try a new hobby and take a class. You can meet wonderful people, and you’re more likely to find somebody that shares your interests!

That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!

-Laysha

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Sex & Pregnancy – What You Should Know!

It’s no doubt that approaching sex during pregnancy can be a little daunting. Some parents have preconceived notions about what they can and can’t do during pregnancy, or some people have been told through the grapevine that sex during pregnancy isn’t safe (hint: it totally is!). In any case, here’s everything you need to know about sex during pregnancy!

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F.A.Q.

1) Is sex during pregnancy safe?

Providing that you’re pregnancy is progressing normally and you don’t have any complications, sex is perfectly safe during pregnancy! It’s pretty rare that doctor prescribes what is known as “pelvic rest” (meaning you should abstain from penetrative sex), but it can happen. Generally, as long as you’re not told by your doctor that you shouldn’t – assume you can! If you have any questions, simply ask your doctor!

2) Are orgasms safe?

Absolutely! While orgasms do cause the vaginal walls to contract, it’s not even close to the same degree as actual contractions, and don’t pose a problem for most women.

3) Will having sex hurt the baby?

A regular fear among men in regards to sex is “will my penis poke the baby?”. The answer is no – it won’t. The baby is protected by the amniotic sac as well as layers of muscle. So you’re safe to do the nasty – with no worries about the baby!

4) What about oral and anal sex?

You can proceed with your anal and oral activities during pregnancy – you might just need to be a little more careful! A lot of women get hemorrhoids during pregnancy, so anal sex can be a bit more painful. As for oral sex, if a pregnant woman is receiving, you have to be careful not to blow any air into the vagina. While rare, blowing air into the vagina can cause a serious condition called a venous air embolism – and can sometimes be fatal to mom and baby.

5) If I’m already pregnant, should I still use condoms?

This is something that you should discuss with your partner. If you’re a single pregnant mom-to-be (or you and your partner have an open relationship) experimenting sexually, it’s best to use a condom to help prevent STI’s – which can pass to baby and affect their health.

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Best Positions

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Toys

Sometimes it can be hard to reach around a pregnant belly for some extra stimulation when you need it – a toy can help with that! Try looking for toys that have a handle to give you a little extra reach!

Wildfire Slimline G

Screaming O Pop Vibe

The Man Handler Dildo

Shop Online Here!

 

Until next time!

xoxo Laysha

Visit us Online at: www.ourpleasure.ca

Weekly Q&A

Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex!  The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Saturday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A! Rest assured it’s completely anonymous if you want it!