Weekly Q&A

Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex!  The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Friday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A!

(If you don’t want to leave your real email address, you don’t have to.  No problem! Simply type in a fake email address)

10 Things You Should Know About Period Sex!

1461264059-period-sexPeriod sex. A monthly bliss, or taboo subject? Whether or not to have sex on your period has become a serious debate, with some people screaming YES while others are an adamant NO! Some women think that having sex on their period is gross, messy, and worst of all, that their partner won’t enjoy it. Before you make up your mind on the age old debate, check out our 10 things you should know about period sex below!

Doctors say it’s A-okay

As long as you and your partner is comfortable, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a romp during your monthly’s. It’s healthy and normal for both partners!

You shouldn’t need lubricant!

If you’re somebody who ordinarily needs a little bit of help, fret not when your Aunt Flo comes to visit! Period blood makes a great lubricant on its own!

Clumping is completely normal

Just had a great period quickie and you’re finding dark clumps afterwards? Completely normal! It’s just some of the uteral lining coming out – not a big deal at all.

You might love it!

Studies show that women can be more aroused during the 3rd day of their period – which is the ideal time to have sex!

Your partner probably won’t be as grossed out as you think

If you’re at all curious or worried simply talk to your partner! A little conversation can go a long way, and you might find out that they’re not as worried about it as you are!

You can minimize mess! 

Put down a towel to help prevent stains. Wear a female condom to help ease on the blood flow, or have your partner wear a condom for easy clean up for them! (Hint: you bleed during sex less than you think, unless you’re a heavy bleeder!)

You have options! 

If the idea of sex during your period is an uncomfortable thought, that doesn’t mean you still can’t enjoy yourself. Wear a tampon to stop blood flow and have you or your partner focus on clitoral stimulation!

Use protection!

Contrary to popular belief, you CAN get pregnant while on your period. If you’re practicing safe sex, make sure to use protection even during that time of the month!

Sex can help with cramps!

Orgasms help with cramp relief – end of story!

Sex can shorten your period! 

When you have an orgasm, your uterus contracts. This contracting causes the uteral lining to come out faster, meaning shorter periods!

All in all, period sex seems like a pretty sweet deal!

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What do you think? Comment below!

xoxoxo Laysha

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Q&A Answers!

Good morning, everyone!
You sent them, it’s time to answer!!!

 

1) Sometimes during sex, I feel like my vagina loosens. Is there anything I can do to make it tighter?

Kegel exercises help your vagina muscles like lifting weights helps the other areas of your body to become strong! Kegel exercises aren’t only great for preventing incontinence and helping your pelvic floor – they also make sex better too! Once those muscles are strengthened, it can lead to a tighter feeling and more intense orgasms! The lucky thing about Kegel exercises is that they’re easy, you can do them anywhere, and you don’t need any fancy tools (though you can use them if you want).

Basically, all you have to do is tighten your pelvic floor muscles – and easy way to tell which muscle this is, is to stop peeing mid stream. Did you cut off urination? That’s the muscle you want to squeeze! From there, all you have to do is hold, and release. The rule of thumb is to squeeze, hold for 5 seconds, then release for 5 seconds. Repeat for up to half an hour (they say 30 minutes of exercise 3x a week is best). As you use the muscles more, they’ll begin to strengthen, and you can practice holding the intervals for longer. 10, 15, 30 seconds and up!

If you like, once that’s done you can get help by a vaginal weight to really use those muscles!

2) My boyfriend likes to watch porn. Is it a bad thing? Should I be worried?

Honestly, many women having feelings of jealousy or dislike towards their partners porn watching, but it’s very rarely anything to worry about. Some people are more visual creatures than others, and men tend to fall into the category. Women tend to be more mentally stimulated – it’s just how we’re wired! Now, that being said, not every man falls into that category, nor women to the other, but as a general rule of thumb that’s how it works. The only time you really have to worry is when your partner begins to let porn watching disrupt their daily life. If they miss work due to watching pornography, if they ignore you or their friends and family in favor it.

Other than that it’s not a bad thing, and you definitely shouldn’t be worried!

3) I get very “wet” during sex. Am I normal?

100%! In fact, I might go so far as to say that you’re very lucky. A lot of women struggle with self lubrication – especially once menopause begins to sink in. There are a lot of reasons why you might get wetter, including the time of your cycle and level of arousal, but it’s rarely a bad thing to be more wet than what is normal.

That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!

-Laysha

How kink helped with my body positivity

It’s no secret that both women and men have body insecurities, especially when it comes to the bedroom. When I was younger, I used to think that there was no one in the world that could have more body insecurities than me. When I first started having sex, there was no way that I would do anything with the lights on. The lights had to be off for me to even come crawling out from under the sheets.

You see, I was always pretty heavily picked on. I wasn’t a small pre-teen or teen and that really rubbed off on my psyche. While I started having sex young, it came with a lot of mixed feelings. On one hand I was excited – boys were starting to pay attention to me! On the other hand, I was so nervous and conscious about my body. Would they find my stretch marks disgusting? Were my breasts too saggy? Did I make weird faces? Was I just plain ugly? Looking back on it now, I realize how much that negativity really rubbed off on my sex life. My nerves showed through, and I can see now that I didn’t start really enjoying sex until I let go of all of that.

I wish I could tell you exactly how to do it, but everyone is different. Even more so I don’t think how it happened for me could happen to many other people. In my early twenties I started to experiment with the kink lifestyle. I met two amazing partners who whisked me away to this grand world of parties, scenes and so many other amazing things. Deciding to experiment took bravery, but these two people had ways of pushing me to my limits. I remembered the first time that I decided that I didn’t care, the first time that I actually felt sexy.

We were at a party, and I was dressed to the nines. Corset, skirt, very high heels. My partners thought it a good idea to put a hood on me and lead me around. Despite the rough terrain (gravel is NOT nice to walk on in high heels), I received so many compliments about how graceful and beautiful I looked. And I felt so comfortable because I couldn’t see anything. I didn’t have to see all of these faces staring back and me. I didn’t have to wonder if they were judging me, because I was only left to hear them. The genuine words felt more real to me than anything I had ever experienced before. After that party I rode on a high that made me glow for days.

I had never met a more understanding group of people. They truly built me up as a person, breaking down my insecurities and helping me find things to love about myself that I hadn’t even considered. I felt truly and unconditionally loved and appreciated, sometimes by complete strangers. Never once was I sneered at, mocked, or made fun of. Never once was I called fat or ugly. I met hundreds of people during those 3 years, and not once did anybody affirm my worst fears of myself. Out of all of those people, not one. That was a wake up call for me that I really needed.

As time went on I got more and more comfortable. Suddenly I was doing things that I could never imagine myself doing. I was changing in public unisex change rooms, or wearing little to nothing at these parties even when there were people I didn’t know present. I had become so comfortable in my body that nothing else mattered. I’ve been out of the kink lifestyle for over 2 years now, and I can honestly look back at those 3 years as what really helped me find myself. I discovered so much more than body positivity. I discovered my limits, what I enjoy, and how to have a voice. I had amazing experiences that taught me things I can take with me for the rest of my life. I feel more whole as a person and more sure of myself than a lot of people my age.

I honestly thank kink for most of it.

Sometimes you never know where new experiences will take you!

I hope all of you can realize how truly beautiful you are and find your own body positivity!

xoxo

Laysha

 

The 60 Year Itch!

The need for intimacy is ageless! And studies now say that no matter your gender, you can enjoy sex well into your adult years! More people than ever over the age of 60 are enjoying the same amount of sex and dating as they did when they were younger. In a lot of ways, being over 60 is the golden age for sex! As you age you gain more experience and get wiser, being able to please yourself and your sexual partners easier. While there are challenges to sex as you age, you can find tips for enjoying a healthy sex life as you age.

Tips!

It’s no secret: sex is not the same as you age! Sometimes you have to do things a little differently.

1. Have less expectations for yourself and your partner. You might not be able to do what you used to and that’s okay!
2. Embrace those differences to make sex good now.
3. Modernize. When you were younger, sex was a taboo subject – but not anymore! Communicate, seek information or find helpful products!
4. Take your time! Good sex involves more than just intercourse! Take your time with foreplay with touching and cuddling.
5. Experiment. Some things may not work the same as they did a few years ago, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find something new (and better).
6. Foreplay is important! Both men and women take longer to arouse as they get older.

Erections

As men age, erections may not be the same. They either may be difficult to get, or hard to maintain. Many men suffer with this problem, but a lot of men actually have no problem getting erections. If you do, find a method that works well for you! There are many things that may help.

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An all natural stimulant for men, Forta helps men get erections by increasing the blood flow to the penis! Staying in the system for 24 hours, Forta can help increase response time, energy, and vitality!

 

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Penis pumps help create erections by creating a vacuum that forces blood into the penis, making it harder and thicker. Then simply add a penis ring ( a ring worn around the base of the penis) which helps keep erections longer because they keep the blood in the penis.


SatanLubrication

Many women have difficulty with vaginal dryness as they age. A good lubricant can solve many problems that comes with dryness -including daily discomfort! Find a natural feeling lubricant that emulates your own body fluids for comfort and increased sensation! Anal play? Make sure you use lubricant for that as well!

 

 

 


Best Positions for the Older Couple


Liberators – For the couple that wants more!

As we age, we might need a little help getting into positions. Liberators are made for the old and young couple alike that need a little extra lift! Some are designed to help with angle, other to soften the blow to the knees or other body parts during intercourse. Some are even curved for a gentle rocking motion while you go.

Until next time!

Laysha xoxoxo

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Weekly Q&A

Hello everyone!
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask? Or do you have something that’s been on your mind for a while but you’re not sure how to mention it?
If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex!  The truth is – no one can know everything there is about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships below and we’ll answer them on Friday! We’ll try to answer as many questions as we can, but if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll make sure to answer it next Q&A!

(If you don’t want to leave your real email address, you don’t have to.  No problem! Simply type in a fake email address)

For the last time

I started writing blogs for Our Pleasure back in September of 2013 and my very first one was “Don’t you put it in your mouth”. Over the last 18 months I’ve opened up to you all, we’ve talked about abuse, sex, illness’s, desire, beauty, pubic hair, rape, enhancers, bondage; we’ve talked about it all! I’ve shared pieces of myself with you and in return you’ve opened yourselves up to me with questions and comments. I’ve had an amazing time writing for myself and for you but this will be the last blog that I do. I am leaving Our Pleasure for a new career with a heavy heart but I am so glad that I had this opportunity. I’ve learned so much in my time here and I can’t wait to read the new blogs that come out after me, I’m sure you’re all excited too!

While they are waiting to find someone to take over the blog there will be a few weeks with nothing posted but stay tuned because there is lots more to come!

I’ve compiled a list of my favorite to 10 blogs that I’ve written since being here, I hope you enjoy them!

For the last time Darlings

XoXo

Asia

 

Don’t you put it in your mouth September 2, 2013

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2013/09/02/1600/

One Night (I don’t under)Stand November 18, 2013

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2013/11/18/one-night-i-dont-understand/

Myth Busters OP Style April 25th, 2014

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2014/04/25/myth-busters-op-style/

Two Great Loves March 28, 2014

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2014/03/28/two-great-loves/

The Ex Files June 9 2014

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2014/06/09/the-ex-files/

I’m Sorry Miss Mack August 15 2014

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2014/08/15/im-sorry-miss-mack/

80/20 Rule July 7 2014

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2014/07/07/80-20-rule/

Is three a crowd?

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2014/11/24/is-3-a-crowd/

To Bush or not to Bush

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2014/11/03/to-bush-or-not-to-bush/

I can’t make you love me, but I do

https://ourpleasure.wordpress.com/2015/01/26/i-cant-make-you-love-me-but-i-do/

 

Lady Marmalade

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Favorite Lyrics:

We independent women, some mistake us for wh*res
I’m sayin‘, why spend mine when I can spend yours
Disagree? Well that’s you and I’m sorry
Imma keep playing these cats out like Atari
wearing high heel shoes, getting love from the dudes
4 bad ass chicks from the Moulin Rouge

Final Thoughts:

To be honest I completely forgot about this song or it would have been much sooner on the list! You’ve got 4 singers from very different styles and backgrounds singing about sex, sex for money, sex for diamonds and sex for pleasure. This song came out in 2001 as part of the Moulin Rouge soundtrack and received a lot of negative response due to the intense sexuality of it. It was said that Lil’ Kim’s style made the song trashy and ruined the original song by Patti Labelle but to me it added a new style. “Voulez vous coucher avec moi ce soir”.