Something you probably never knew about Marilyn Monroe is that she never had an orgasm until the later stages of her life. Most people find this shocking as she was and still is one of the world’s greatest sex icons of all time. Women wanted to be her and men wanted to be with her, it goes without question that Marilyn took the world by storm with her buxom body and bleach blonde hair. The question is how did she become this sex icon when sex was something that she didn’t even enjoy for most of her life?
Like modern day women Monroe was weighed down with the troubles of life, an unhappy childhood and feelings of inadequacy even though she was the worlds darling. Even today an average of 10% of women have never had an orgasm which is attributed to Anorgasmia; the inability to have an orgasm. The question here is what can we do to shut out life’s problems and worries so that we can experience sexual release?
Relax: The more tensed you are or the more your mind is wandering, the less chances are that you will have an orgasm or even enjoy sexual relations. Most times it’s not that our partner is not skillful enough it’s that we cannot let our self go enough to enjoy what they are doing.
Communicate: Not everyone likes the same things! I know girls who hate penetration, other girls who hate clitoral stimulation, and even some that find oral so repulsive that they will freeze. How is your partner supposed to know what you like and don’t like if you don’t tell them?
Enjoy yourself: This is not a movie; no one is watching you other than your partner. You don’t need to slap your vagina, or spit on his penis. Do what makes you comfortable. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, just do what comes natural and what your partner likes (if you’re comfortable with it of course).
Fantasize: Some women have problems concentrating during sex so why not whisk yourself away to a sandy beach on the Bahamas? Imagine that your partner is Robin Hood whisking you away to his forest camp to ravish you beneath the stars. You may even learn a few things about yourself that you didn’t know.
Foreplay: Oh boy. This is the one that I cannot say enough about. If your just sticking it in without any foreplay than chances are it isn’t going to be a very enjoyable experience. Being sensual with your partner, touching them, arousing them, teasing them with your finger or lips; that’s what sets your heart racing! You want to feel those butterflies; those teasing caresses that make your body beg for more and when you’ve almost reach the point of screaming with sexual frustration, that’s when you want to penetrate! Spending 5 minutes stimulating your partner could mean the difference between boring Tuesday night sex and explosive Friday night Ecstasy.
It took years of therapy with Dr. Ralph Greenson for Marilyn to finally reach an orgasmic state but it doesn’t have to be that way for everyone. If you feel unsatisfied or like you’ve never have a good sexual experience try our 5 steps listed above and allow ecstasy to wash over you. If with all our suggestions your still have issues try speaking to your doctor.
“Bless you doctor, all the years I had never had one. What wasted years!” – Marilyn Monroe