Have you ever noticed that after a breakup things can turn pretty nasty? I mean sometimes we can have good breakups where everything is mutual and it seems like its the best thing for everyone and other times it feels like you didn’t know the person at all.
I’m one of those people who thinks that break ups should mean letting go. If you have decided the relationship is over and you don’t want to be friends than there is no reason to talk. However there’s people out there who instead of letting go try to do the most damage possible so that you can’t possibly move on. I don’t know why people do that and I think its one of the cruelest things you can do. If you were in a relationship you obviously loved the other person or at the very least felt strongly for them, especially if it was long term. So why when it ends would you want to throw insults, anger, hatred and pain at the person you once loved? I mean obviously if someone cheated or did something that ended the relationship in a negative manor you might be angry but why keep it going?
It can be very hard to not feel like you are a bad person when an ex is attacking you to your friends and to your face. Sometimes it even becomes hard to remember that you’re not in the wrong. When this happens its really important that you have someone to talk to. Friends and family are great but sometimes you need someone you don’t know, a third party completely outside the situation. We’re very fortunate here in Newfoundland that they provide these services for us. We have a Mental Health Crisis Line which is a confidential service that provides you with access to psychologists, therapists, group counseling, at home counseling, everything that you need when you need someone. So if you are going through a bad breakup and need some help you can always call 777-3200 (they deal with everything not just breakups).
Break ups are hard but you don’t have to go through it alone.