1) My partner and I want to start trying anal. She has lost of vibrators already, do I really have to buy an anal toy?
If the toy doesn’t have a flared base, DON’T USE IT! The important thing that separates an anal toy from any other adult toy is that it has some kind of flared base or loop at the bottom that’s designed to keep the toy from disappearing inside of you. “Sex Brought Me to the ER” is a very real show, with very real consequences! If a toy doesn’t have a base, it runs the risk of going missing inside of you – where some cases medical intervention may be involved.
Do yourself a favor, always use a toy with a base. Like the ones showed below!
2) I can’t ever seem to orgasm when my boyfriend and I have sex – I do during oral though! Is this normal?
It’s more normal than you think! Around 70-80 percent of women can only achieve orgasm during clitoral stimulation. If you want to start orgasming during penetrative sex, there are claims that strengthening your pelvic floor by doing kegel exercises might help. There haven’t been any studies that prove this indefinitely, but a lot of women who exercise their kegels claim that they have better sex and vaginal orgasms!
Alternatively, use your or your partners hand during sex to stimulate the clitoris – this extra manual stimulation can prove to be just what you need. Even a small vibrating toy between you can give the sensations you need – just let your partner know that you want to experiment!
3) I don’t really like vibration are there other toys I can try?
Absolutely! These days companies are coming out with more and more unique options for toys! While a lot of toys still come with vibrating options, you can choose whether or not to use them! Some examples of good toys to try if you dislike vibration are:
These toys simulate oral sex through suction! Some (like the womanizer), use both a light suction and pulsating waves to stimulate which is an entirely different feeling than vibration, while others (like the Hiky) use a powerful suction motion only with vibration options if you want them!
These toys use rotating balls to stimulate the clitoris instead of traditional vibration. The balls move in a variety of patterns and speeds and create a similar sensation to that of exploring fingers. The Embrace line of roller toys are a great example!
That’s all we have time for today, but if you have any other questions be sure to save them for the next time we do Q&A!