Dildo vs Dong

A lot of people ask us what the difference is between a dildo and a dong so here’s a mini 101 on dildos and dongs! A dildo has a base, whether its testicles or a flared base and a dong does not. An easy way to remember this is; a Dil-Do have a base and on a dong it’s gone. Ill also note that neither of these items vibrates.

A dong is a great choice for masturbation or for use on a partner. The sizes vary just as much as the human penis does and you can get them in any sorts of shapes and colors.

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This one here is an 8” Crystal Jelly and even though its pink it is very life like in shape. The head of the penis is shaped out here on top and all these grooves are the veins. Now obviously a real penis wouldn’t have veins bulging out like that but it defiantly makes for added stimulation on this toy. Some people use these to practice oral gratification or to use vaginally but you should NEVER use this toy anally. Because it does not have any base to it, it would be very easy to lose this up inside the rectum and have a very embarrassing trip to the emergency room!

Dildos on the other hand are good for anal use because of their base. A lot of them, like this one here are strap on compatible.

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So with a dildo you get all the great features of a dong with just a few more added. Now this one here is actually made of pyrex glass. Glass is very safe to use, hypoallergenic, and a great alternatives for people who have allergies to latex or other materials. Since there are no pores in the glass they are extremely easy to clean and will not form any kind of build up if cleaned with toy cleaner after every use, because of this glass toys can last a lifetime and be used over and over again. Another great feature of them is that they will not become tacky or gummy overtime so you can use as much lubrication as you want, whenever you want! Glass is compatible with silicone and water based lubricant so you can use whatever you want! The best feature about glass however is its ability to heat and cool. You can fill a bowl full of cold water and place the toy in it, or the refrigerator to give it a cool feeling for those warm summer nights, or heat it through hot water or the microwave to make it warm on a cold winters night. There are no other toys that we carry that have this ability and makes your toy multipurpose so it always feels like a new and exciting experience.

XoXo Darlings,

Asia

 

How many Licks?

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Favorite Lyrics:

Some ****** even put me on their grocery lists
Right next to the whip cream and box of chocolates
Designer pussy, my shit come in flavors
High-class taste ******* got to spend paper
Lick it right the first time or you gotta do it over
Like it’s rehearsal for a Tootsie commercial

Final Thoughts:

Well I mean I would feel irresponsible if I didn’t include this song in my list. If you’re my age, or older you’ve got to know this song. I mean I remember hearing this song when it first came out and thinking oh dear gentle jesus lol I was 12 and it was all over the radio. I actually remember having sex for the first time listening to this at 13. I mean seriously there are SO many songs from women asking their men to ‘get down’ so men here is my question; Are you listening? Women; if he doesn’t go down do you stay around?

Answers!

Good morning, darlings!
It’s question and answer time!

What are your favorite love songs before Valentines Day and Why?

 Well darling we all know I have a soft spot for sappy music so lets ask some store managers!

Topsail Road:

I knew I loved my husband the moment I met him so we choose this as our wedding song, I love it.

Duckworth St

When I was a little girl my nan used to play this song for me and tell me that I should never settle for less then someone I could not live without. So even though I’m single this Valentines day I know that someone out there is someone that I will always love :)

Corner Brook:

My partner of the past almost 24 yrs doesn’t express himself well with words but in actions he does.

Weekly Q & A

Dear darlings,
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask?
Have something that has been on your mind for ages but you don’t quite know how to say it? If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex.  The truth is, no one can know everything there is to know about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships here and we’ll answer them each Wednesday! We’ll try to answer three questions, if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll just carry it over to next week!

(If you don’t want to leave your real email address, you don’t have to.  No problem!  Simply type in a fake email address)

When is the right time to give it up?

 

When you start dating someone new the question arises, when do you have sex? When do you get in bed with someone for the first time? Let’s be honest, when you find someone attractive you analyze them and how you think they’d be in bed. We choose who to date based on what we find attractive. Eventually we know that we’re going to end up dating the person, but what makes you feel likeyou’re ready or not ready to sleep with the person?
There are certain pressures put on us women by society to wait, don’t give it up or you’re ‘easy’. For various reasons; religious, moral, social, people

believe that women who have sex with a stranger or someone they haven’t known long are ‘sluts’. Some men won’t take a girl seriously or consider her ‘date-able’ if she gives it up too easily, but if they are willing to sleep with her isn’t it the same thing? Why do we put so much stock into what other people think about us and our sexual lives? I used to believe that it shouldn’t matter what other people think only what you think and when you feel ready but there is a simple consideration that makes it easier; ask your partner.

Since I’ve been back in the dating world I’ve realized that sex can either make or break a new relationship. When I dated women I don’t remember having this intense pressure on me to choose when to sleep with them, it was more of a mutual thing. However with men I feel like its my choice, they’re ready whenever so if I give it up too soon I’m a slut and if I wait too long I’m a wet blanket. I have to admit dating men now feels worse then it did 10 years ago when I stopped.

To be honest last night I asked Kirk (the guys Ive dated a little bit) when it was acceptable to have sex without him thinking I’m easy. I honestly didn’t know any other way to go about it then to outright tell him that I didn’t turn him down because I didn’t want to have sex but because I want to make sure it doesn’t end what we’re doing. Apparently we’ve reached the point where he is fine having sex without it meaning that I’m too easy but I’m going to make him wait a few more days for extra measure! Lol.

In the end the choice of when to have sex is always in your hands and no one else’s. You have to be comfortable in your decision no matter what one you made but it does make it a little easier if you have the input of the other person. If you don’t feel comfortable asking them in person, ask in a text. Once everyone is on the same page it makes things a little easier.

Happy fun sex time darlings <3

Asia

One Night Stand

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Favorite Lyrics:

Everywhere I go, the people wanna make some time with me.
That’s okay, if the next day I can be free.
Well, it’s feelin’ good and you’re the one I’m lovin’ tonight,
Well, don’t you go and spoil it, babe, by trying to get yourself all uptight.

Final Thoughts: 

I’m actually DISGUSTED that I’ve never heard this song before! Thank God one of my lovely readers messaged this to me after the ‘Get on Your Knee’s’ post! All I can say is that this song was WAY before its time. Released on the album ‘Farewell Song’ in 1982 this song is all about sex without love, sex without emotion, sex without commitment. This is such a powerful song for me after hearing it because I am a firm believer in the emotionless sex. If you can separate sex from emotion then theres no reason not to share the pleasure ;)

Thoughts?

XoXo

Asia

Answers!

Good morning, darlings!
It’s question and answer time!

 

Can masturbation make it harder for a woman to get pregnant when the time comes to have kids?

There are a lot of storys out there that say how unhealthy masturbation is; that it causes hairy palms, rotting genitals, dead kittens, etc but it still amazes me with the things that people come up to prevent others from masturbating. Self love is a completely healthy, natural part of life that has medical and sexual benefits for                                                                            all people. Heres a few;

  1. Masturbation lowers blood pressured and produces eendorphin’s which are responsible for helping ease stress and increase relaxation. In other words it helps you sleep.
  1. Masturbation relieves cramps and increases blood flow to ease pain in the pelvic area. So if your a female and having some crampy time ditch the hot water bottle and use a toy instead!

  1. Toxins build up in the urogenital tract, leading to disease but masturbation helps to flush those toxins out of the body, making men who ejaculate more than five times a week a third less likely to develop prostate cancer.

4. Lets look back at the toxins in the urinary tract for a second. Masturbation helps flush old bacteria from the cervix helping to prevent UTI’s and infections.

  1. How can you possibly know what you like if you don’t touch yourself? Self love is so important and helps you become more in-tune with yourself.

So don’t worry darling there is no correlation between masturbation and infertility.

Hope this helped,

Asia

Weekly Q & A

Dear darlings,
Do you have a burning question that you’re too shy to ask?
Have something that has been on your mind for ages but you don’t quite know how to say it? If you’re alive and you’re human, you probably have questions about sex.  The truth is, no one can know everything there is to know about sex and sexuality.  Here at Our Pleasure, we learn new things every day! We are not doctors or relationship gurus, but we will try our best to give you the best advice we can give!

Leave all your questions about sex, sexuality, sexual health, birth control, STI’s, and relationships here and we’ll answer them each Wednesday! We’ll try to answer three questions, if we don’t get to yours this week, don’t fear, we’ll just carry it over to next week!

(If you don’t want to leave your real email address, you don’t have to.  No problem!  Simply type in a fake email address)

Anal Douching 101

Anal douching is a great way to prepare yourself for anal sex especially if you are concerned about being clean in your anal cavity. One of the main reasons we hear people say that they don’t want to engage in anal play or sex is that they are afraid of fecal matter. So in this blog I’m going to discuss the proper ways to douche.

Steps for anal douching
  1. You should always clean your douche before using it, even if  first time you’ve used it. The reason for this is that the anus is a very sensitive area and you do not want to let any bacteria get up inside the rectum. A good toy cleaner is a great way to make sure your douche is clean and ready to use.
  2. Some people use soft soap in their douche’s but I think water is sufficient. You want to use warm, not hot or cold as the skin inside the rectum is very sensitive. Using hot water could potentially burn you so please be careful.
  3. LUBRICATION regardless if you think you need it or not, regardless of your experience level everyone should use lubricant. Cover the douche with a good lubricant and also lubricate yourself. This will prevent any tearing from occurring and makes it easier for your body to accept the douche.
  4. When you insert the douche into the anal cavity you want to go very slow, take your time and insert it carefully.
  5. Once the douche is inserted up into your body you want to squeeze the bulb releasing the water into the rectum. Do not squeeze over and over trying to get the last drop of water as you may be just filling your rectum with air which can be very uncomfortable.
  6. Remove the douche and allow yourself to release the water into a toilet. You should repeat this process until the water runs clear. If at any point you feel pain or uncomfortable with the water in your rectum you should stop. This may be your body’s way of saying that it has had enough.

7. You should always douche about an hour or two before having anal play (unless the douche is part of the play) as the water

 

 

Happy Douching Darlings!

Asia
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